{"id":5698,"date":"2026-01-20T15:34:54","date_gmt":"2026-01-20T15:34:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/integrativa.pt\/?p=5698"},"modified":"2026-04-11T17:08:16","modified_gmt":"2026-04-11T17:08:16","slug":"choosing-is-not-the-end-of-the-road-a-psychological-perspective","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/integrativa.pt\/en\/escolher-nao-e-o-fim-do-caminho-uma-perspectiva-da-psicologia\/","title":{"rendered":"Choosing is not the end of the road: a psychology perspective"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Throughout life, we are constantly called upon to make choices: career paths, relationships, routines, priorities. However, for many people, the idea of choosing is accompanied by fear, guilt, or the feeling that a wrong decision could compromise everything that follows.<\/p>\n

It is common to hear phrases in consultations such as \u201cif I change now, I'll be throwing it all away\u201d or \u201cif I chose this, I have to stick with it\u201d. These ideas reveal a common confusion: that deciding is the same as sentencing. But they are not the same thing.<\/p>\n

A decision is an act performed at a specific moment, with available information, existing emotional resources, and the circumstances present at that stage of life. A ruling, on the other hand, is definitive, rigid, and does not allow for review.<\/p>\n

When we treat decisions as pronouncements, we remove our own capacity for adaptation and growth. We begin to believe that choosing implies being stuck, even when our internal reality has already changed. This rigidity tends to increase anxiety, avoidance, and feelings of being trapped. Choosing is often just taking a step, not defining the entire path.<\/p>\n

One of the most frequent core beliefs associated with difficulty in changing is the idea that \u201cif I change, it's because I failed.\u201d In the logic of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, this belief functions as a rigid filter through which anything involving readjustment comes to be interpreted as inability, inconsistency, or weakness. However, changing direction does not invalidate the journey taken; on the contrary, it integrates it.<\/p>\n

Changing can mean learning more about yourself, recognising limitations that weren't previously visible, or adjusting expectations to current reality. Persisting solely to avoid \u201cfailing\u201d can, paradoxically, distance us from well-being and personal coherence. Psychological flexibility is not giving up; it is self-regulation.<\/p>\n

The fear of change is rarely linked solely to the change itself. It is often associated with the automatic thoughts that arise when the possibility of choice appears: \u201cI'll regret it\u201d, \u201cothers will think I'm not consistent\u201d, \u201cwhat if it's too late?\u201d. These thoughts don't arise as hypotheses to consider, but as absolute truths, and it is precisely here that cognitive work becomes essential.<\/p>\n

Choosing doesn't end possibilities, it rearranges them. Not all decisions need to be definitive to be valid. Some exist only to bring us closer to ourselves at a particular moment in life.<\/p>\n

If you feel you're at an impasse, it can be helpful to explore these issues in psychological counselling, in a safe space where choices are not judged, but understood. Because choosing isn't the end of the road. It's often the way to keep moving forward.<\/p>\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t<\/div>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>

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Madalena Raposo <\/strong><\/a>| Psychologist<\/p>\n

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